Hi, I’m Benjamin Hammersley

I started B is for Being in 2015 when I realised my authentic self was covered by the belief, “I’m not good enough.”

I didn’t know it at the time but this belief was responsible for all of the self-denying thoughts, feelings, and actions I’d experienced since I was a child.

Because I wasn’t aware of this belief, I assumed I was a person that naturally lacked self-esteem and confidence.

I compensated for this sense of lack by:

• Engaging in people-pleasing behaviour, even at the expense of my own values and well-being.
• Trying to prove my worth to others by acquiring external achievements, status, or awards.

These behaviours left me feeling fake, vulnerable, and exhausted. I had no sense of who I was deep inside.

At the age of 27, I reached a breaking point where these behaviours had become dysfunctional and were causing me a lot of mental and emotional pain. I started paying attention to the negative thoughts and feelings inside me. Each time they came up I would do my best to meet them with compassion and acceptance.

Through this practice, I experienced a dramatic shift in my self-esteem and confidence levels. The limiting belief, “I’m not good enough” had begun to soften.

As this belief began to soften, I experienced an effortless sense of calm and my authentic self naturally rose to the surface.

This was just the beginning of my journey!

Why I Created B is for Being

I created B is for Being to share my experience and help others identify and heal their own limiting beliefs.

There are three main sections to this site:

• Podcast: Conversations with friends, psychologists, and thought leaders about the most effective tools and practices for healing limiting beliefs.
• Slow Video: Gentle videos for rest and reflection when life feels rough.
• Blog: An open journal of my journey as I explore my limiting beliefs and the tools for healing.

The watercolour design featured in the B is for Being logo was kindly provided by Stephen P. Loya.