017: Self-Liberation and the Search for a ‘Whole Relationship’ – A Conversation with Pasan Tennakoon

Breaking through social conditions

Self-Liberation - Pasan Tennakoon
Pasan Tennakoon

I spoke with Pasan Tennakoon at this year’s Blazing Swan. Pasan is a member of

The Liberators International, an organisation which creates flash mob events around the world to remind people of our shared human connection and the ability we all have to express ourselves authentically.

Initially we were talking about the things we’d like to let go of, but the conversation naturally opened to include much more than that.

In this episode Pasan shares his journey of self-liberation and how he’s moved through some of his strongest insecurities around body image and dancing in public, and realised his fears were nothing more than social conditions which he had accepted as the definite way to behave.

We also talk about forming ‘whole-relationships’ where neither individual is needed by the other to feel complete, but instead both people support each other’s growth and development while staying true to their own needs and personal interests. Continue reading

What would you like to let go of?

016: ‘What Would You Like to Let Go Of?’ Blazing Swan 2016 (Adventure Episode)

Sharing what’s going on inside us for greater ease and connection.

I attended Blazing Swan this year and interviewed people anonymously with the intention of providing an open space for the open expression of fears, doubts and insecurities which may be causing some tension within.

From my experience, taking the time out to acknowledge inner-tensions I may be carrying has helped me bring more ease and clarity to what’s going on inside me, and has allowed me to go on to enjoy more connected and authentic interactions with myself and those around me.

I was so surprised at how openly people were sharing with me that I began to share some really deep conflicts of my own.

There are quite a few vulnerable moments in this episode. Continue reading

Writing for Awareness

How Writing Can Help Us Live More Harmoniously with Ourselves and Others

Writing can be used as a tool for understanding the origins of our strong emotional reactions, thought patterns and the underlying beliefs we hold, providing a space for us to choose positive action which brings us closer to ourselves and others.

Strong emotional reactions like fear, anger, anxiety, jealousy and doubt greatly affect our sense of well-being and make it difficult to maintain our harmonious connections with others.

When we aren’t aware of what is the cause behind our emotional reactions we usually look outside of ourselves for the apparent cause of disturbance. In this way we usually end up blaming ourselves or those around us for how we feel.

It’s pretty crazy, but in most cases where we feel unpleasant emotions come up, these emotions are not inherently connected to the situation in front of us but are a result of the deeper beliefs we hold about how the world should or shouldn’t be.

All of the emotions we experience are a reaction to our thoughts. What we feel in our bodies as our emotions is our body reacting to these thoughts, and our thoughts are determined by the beliefs we hold. Continue reading

015: Doing the Things We Love

015: Doing the Things We Love Despite Our Fears of Messing Up (Adventure Episode)

Changing where we get our sense of value from, and doing the things we love.

Being afraid to make mistakes can keep us from taking action on things we want to create, the places we want to explore and the people we’d like to connect with.

Knowing that we can generate our own sense of value and that our value is constant no matter how many mistakes we make can help us move forward into the world unrestricted by the fear we could mess things up.

In the first Adventure Episode of the podcast, I ride towards a lighthouse on Rottnest Island and take a look at the dynamics of this fear and share some of the techniques I’ve found helpful in re-discovering my inner-value which remains unchangeable by any external circumstance. Continue reading

Making it easier to step outside your comfort zone

014: Making It Easier to Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

Entering new experiences doesn’t have to be so stressful.

Comfort zones are great! But when we feel stuck due to the fear of experiencing something unfamiliar, our sense of well-being suffers as we aren’t able to grow and develop in accordance with our natural drives to create, explore and experiment in the world around us.

Just being aware of the ways we can become stuck from taking action can help us readjust how we approach unfamiliar experiences and make it easier for us to step outside our comfort zones. Continue reading

I am not good enough.

013: “I’m Not Good Enough and I Need to Be Better.”

The core belief that’s behind all of our self-negativity.

Beliefs are powerful. They control our interpretations and reactions to ourselves and the world we experience around us, but often we’re unaware of which beliefs are running in the background of our lives.

Most of the time beliefs don’t cause us too much trouble, but in the case of “I’m not good enough and I need to be better,” this belief has the ability to keep us fighting our own natural drive for self-expression and cause us quite a bit of unhappiness in the long run.

In this episode I outline why beliefs are so powerful, where this troublesome belief of “I’m not good enough,” comes from, and how we can use our own emotional reactions as tools for uncovering the beliefs we hold – ultimately empowering us to choose to live in accordance with this core negative belief or not. Continue reading

012: The Energy We Invest = the Experiences We Have

012: The Energy We Invest = the Experiences We Have

What type of energy are you investing?

We shape the experiences of our lives by how we choose to invest our energy. But a lot of the time we aren’t aware of how we’re investing this energy, in ourselves and in other people.

Becoming aware of the dynamic between our actions and the resulting experiences can remind us that we decide how we invest, and ultimately, how we experience ourselves and those around us.

In this episode I share some of my own realisations from past energetic investments, and take a look at the experiences which occurred as a result.

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