Marc Thomas King is a family friend and actor living in Los Angeles.
Every time I visit my American family on the East Coast I stop over in L.A., and we’ve had some great chats over the years.
During my latest visit, he played an audio recording for me on his phone. It was a spontaneous free flow session where he allowed himself to express whatever he felt like at that moment.
We keep in touch via Whatsapp, and I receive regular ‘audio sketches’ from Marc every week. They become more elaborate and entertaining as he continues to allow himself to express freely without filtering his creative impulses.
I was intrigued by the raw creativity that was running through every sketch and wanted to know how Marc creates a safe space for himself to just express himself without being shut down by self-censoring or criticism.
This is an extensive talk about creativity, the things which make it flow, and connecting authentically in our interactions with others.
I first heard about Joe from my housemate, Michael. He told me that Joe ran weekend workshops for healing trauma and helping people form a relationship with their emotions.
I was curious and checked out Joe’s site. I went straight to the video section and began watching a video of Joe explaining the different types of anger. The content was fascinating, but the way he was speaking fascinated me even more.
He was relaxed and spoke as if he were talking with a good friend. It didn’t feel like he was trying to sell me anything or talk me into his point of view. He was simply sharing what he knew about anger.
I clicked on the ‘About’ section of his site and read, “[…] My approach is dedicated to equipping you with the awareness and the tools you need to remove the obstacles that are preventing you from being the person you wish to be.” After reading that, I knew I needed to have a talk with Joe.
In this episode, we go to the heart of what’s stopping us from being us.
A useful talk if you want to know what’s stopping you from being yourself, or you’re thinking about embarking on some of your own self-development work.
Joe Douglas is a psychotherapist who helps people take responsibility for their lives and runs regular weekend workshops for people to understand and remove their emotional blocks so they can live a full and happy life as themselves.
Yes, it’s packed with practical tools and inspiration for tackling deep self-doubt, but that’s not why I’m proud of it.
After watching Caira’s TEDx talk on the power of self-love, I felt compelled to contact her and invite her for a talk.
There was only one problem.
I highly doubted that she’d want to talk with me.
My podcast isn’t professional enough, I thought. It needs to be more exciting and better produced for her to be interested. With a TED talk like that, her life must be overflowing with interviews and speaking gigs. Why would she want to talk with me?
But there was something in me, telling me to write to her anyway.
So I began writing the email and felt really daring for doing so. It took me over 2 hours to write that thing; checking it and rewording it and checking it again.
But then I asked myself, what’s the worst that could happen? What’s the worst thing that will happen if I send this email to her?
She probably won’t reply, I thought. Well, if that’s the worst that can happen I’m sending this email!
Then, with a sense of brazenness, I hovered over the ’SEND’ button. I could still feel a lingering sense of doubt inside me but I just clicked the button. The email was sent and I gave myself a giant high-five.
As it turned out, Caira replied the very next day and said she’d love to have a talk. I remember not being able to control the muscles in my face as they formed, what felt like, a permanent smile.
Caira Lee is a national award winning performance poet and author, originally from Maryland, USA, now living in Ghana, Africa.
She has worked her way through deep depression and anxiety and has a strong understanding of what it means to love yourself.
You don’t want to miss this episode.
Join us as we share the strongest fears and doubts that have prevented us from taking compassionate action for ourselves, and the things we did to come through them.
Applying for jobs has never been an enjoyable task for me. I spent almost 20hrs on a job application this week with 4 hours spent on just the cover letter alone.
I was overworking every aspect of the application because I knew that if it was rejected I would feel that I should have been better in some way, that the rejection was a reflection of me not trying hard enough and that I was inadequate.
But me receiving a rejection is not connected to my feelings of worth at all… Unless I feel it is.
I know I’m not alone on this.
The good news is we don’t have to feel inadequate at all.
Rejection is not a sign of inadequacy but simply another person’s interpretation of the small part of us we’ve presented to them.
In this episode, I uncover the reason why we feel inadequate following a rejection and how we can change our default reaction of inadequacy into, I’m good enough no matter what happens.
There are moments in life which cause some pretty unpleasant emotions.
You say hello to a friend on the street and they walk right by you without saying a thing. You get home from work and your partner gives you a funny look.
Fear, doubt, jealousy, anger, confusion – no one wants to feel this way.
Without understanding what exactly has triggered these emotions it’s easy to blame the other person (directly or indirectly) for that we’re experiencing.
What we don’t know is that it’s not the entire person which has triggered these unpleasant feelings, it’s a specific aspect of something they’ve said or done which has triggered this response within us.
It’s very difficult to understand this if you’re already within a strong emotional reaction.
What we need is a more neutral view of what has occurred so we can see things more objectively.
Writing is an excellent tool for doing this and can be used to understand the roots of our strong emotional reactions enabling us to take positive action with people instead of blaming them for what we’re feeling.
In this episode, I take you through this technique and outline exactly what to write about and which questions to ask yourself.